I will be the first to tell you I can be somewhat judgmental. I know how easy it is to judge others when you are not in their shoes, and you have no idea how what they’ve been through. Like the saying – “Walk a mile in their shoes” or something like that.
Nonetheless, it is so easy for us to judge others.
Don’t get me wrong, I would NEVER go up to someone and be like OMG you are so ‘THIS’ or ‘THAT’, but I’ve been known to pass judgment on others for stupid things like appearance, the way they talk, and other such irrelevant factors.
This brings me to the point of this post. Today I was THAT mom, the mom who doesn’t brush her child’s hair. I can easily say that little girls with their hair pulled back into a hair tie with bumps and lumps all over the place, clearly showing the fact that it wasn’t brushed that day, or recently, is a huge pet peeve. WAS a pet peeve I should say.
Today I was awake from a little before 4am with Gradie, not to mention the few times she’d woken up prior to 4am, we then fell asleep again around 6am (this was a big mistake) and we got up after 8am. I was late for work, I had to get her dressed and ready, as well as myself, and drop her off at daycare and get my butt to work. In the attempt to get her ready I took a brush to her hair – HUGE MISTAKE!!!
Let’s back up this train a bit, she has a cough, runny nose thing going on, damn you winter, and we’ve been giving her some cough/cold meds, some of which have ended up in her hair making it crunchy and hard, and we won’t talk about the sneezing/boogers and where those might have ended up. Then while she’s sleeping her hair moves about making the entire situation that much worse.
So – back to the hair brushing. She doesn’t feel great, she’s tired and sensitive (and so am I), so after one feeble attempt which resulted in her crying, I made the executive decision to simply put a clip in her hair and get us on the road to daycare drop off.
I now know how it happens that some days our kids hair might just not get brushed, and I am learning too that that is OK – it is OK to have these days, these moments and while I do feel like a bit of failure for allowing it to happen, it is OK. I might not be the #1 mom today, but I know I am a far ways from the bottom of the barrel.